That’s why the pro-marriage people have it all wrong when they say marriage will get low-income women out of poverty.
While studies have shown that low-income women value marriage and have more traditional views about marriage and divorce than others, they don’t want to get hitched to a man who is going to drag them down.
The article points out what I’ve observed previously: the issue these days isn’t so much that the male schoolteacher is “intimidated” by the high-paid female advertising executive (there are some, but you don’t want them anyway), but rather that the high-paid ad exec refuses to date the schoolteacher. Isn’t the point of being independently wealthy so that you can do what you want, when you want?
The question remains: if you can support yourself as well as any man can support himself, what DIFFERENCE does it make what he earns?Often, they’ll count themselves lucky, because they have someone who sees their worth beyond their financial status.This makes them treasure you, and the relationship, to a higher degree.The Good Men Project recently pondered, what’s a man without money? I’ve never been one to focus on money — my own or someone else’s — or see it as a path to happiness.Now that I’m at midlife, however, and helping to get two kids through college, hoping to retire one day, and dealing with the never-ending costs of living (my broken clavicle cost me of money, despite my health insurance, and my car appears to have an electrical problem, no doubt a pricey problem, that I need to deal with ASAP), I think about money a wee bit more.