So what’s it like to date white guys when you’re not white? But there’s some cool words coming out too, you know. And seriously, whoever came up with the term ‘blowjob lips’?Well, it’s exciting and intense and awkward-in-a-good-way for the first few months, and then it gets weird and annoying and you split up and then you see them on a date with someone else a month later and you die inside and have to drink all the wine to get over it. You want stuff that’s exclusive to the whole brown girl/white boy scenario? I have no idea whether that’s the African thing or just because I eat a lot of lasagne but it doesn’t matter. What a lot of people don’t realise is that when they start talking like that about lips, they’re not just being sexist fuckwits.
And nowhere is it more of an issue than in the world of dating and relationships.
I grew up in a small town in the 90's, where I was the only non-white girl in my class at school and my skin colour was a curiosity rather than a threat.
There was no racial tension, but then again, no sense of black community. All the boys I crushed on were white; my first “boyfriend” (aged 10) was white and my first boyfriend (aged 14) was white.
Their friends want to know what the differences are, even when none are all that apparent. If he says the wrong thing, and you catch wind of it, he knows that's his ass. When you fall in love, it will have nothing to do with your race.
A lot of people on the Internet like to weigh-in negatively about interracial relationships and why they happen.