The method of finding a spouse, the form of the wedding ceremony, and the nature of the marital relationship are all explained in the Talmud.According to the Talmud, Rav Yehuda taught that 40 days before a male child is conceived, a voice from heaven announces whose daughter he is going to marry, literally a match made in heaven!A friend told me I should stick it out a while longer since there are benefits to being married ten years or longer. In some states, such as California, in a marriage of ten years or longer the court retains he right to order that alimony be paid to the lesser-earning spouse for as long as she needs it, if the other spouse has the ability to pay.If you do not know the rules in your state, you could unintentionally lose your right to alimony.
I once ended a relationship with a girl because she’d never heard of the hospital superbug bacteria, MRSA.The Talmud teaches that G-d also arranges second marriages, and a man's second wife is chosen according to his merits. Should you hold off on marrying someone for fear that the person you want to marry might not be your bashert, and there might be a better match out there waiting for you?My nine-year marriage has been rocky for quite some time, and my husband and I periodically talk about divorce.There are a number of statements in the Talmud that would seem to contradict the idea of bashert, most notably the many bits of advice on choosing a wife.Nevertheless, the idea has a strong hold within the Jewish community: look at any listing of Jewish personal ads and you're bound to find someone "Looking for my bashert." Finding your bashert doesn't mean that your marriage will be trouble-free.