Internet dating first message tips

As I discuss in my free online dating guide, successful online dating relies in part on making great first impressions.

Whether the first impression is in the photos you select for your profile, how you describe yourself, or the first email you write, taking time to make the best first impression is important.

You might as well find out right away if your senses of humor* line up.*Bonus advice: Please don't just write "I have a good sense of humor" and expect everyone to believe you. It's good to express enthusiasm for shared interests, but don't make them up, and don't be weird about it.

You can only get so excited about both liking pizza. ), is really into the idea that guys' messages to girls' should assume brain-deadness on the part of the recipients: "You need to make it easy for women and help them think to avoid ending up with message abandonment issues," he writes, suggesting that guys send girls messages that ask questions but also partially answer them, so it isn't too hard or whatever. Though much of what you'll find among internet advice on internet dating is bad, some of it is pretty spot-on and helpful.

This advice may still be helpful for sites such as e Harmony or, however these services guide the communication and there is less “emailing” early on.

Writing the online dating first email is the area where I made the biggest mistakes for the longest period of time when I was dating online.

The words (if you can call them that) are the top nine worst words to use in an opening message.

Mails that contain these words will get practically no replies proving that intelligence (or maybe just good grammar) is an attractive trait in both sexes.

If your joke isn't funny to that person, it's either a) not funny at all, or b) not funny to him/her. In the middle of this city you're walking around in, surrounded by thousands and millions of people walking, you fear you might be the only one who likes walking?

It's presumptuous to list a bunch of unrequested information about yourself in your message, because doing so assumes that this person already thinks of you as a candidate.

Instead, as with good tip #5, use the message to ask about him/her.

By the time your date comes around, she’ll already have lost interest or have found someone more attentive.

If you really are going away, wait until you get back to ask her out.